Tag: stoic

This Too Shall Pass

A conversation I had with my parents just before my high school graduation has stuck with me. We reflected on my life until then – on all of the incredible things that had happened. We reminisced on all of the wonderful times I was leaving behind. After talking for awhile, my mom finally asked me …

Optimizing vs. Setting for Good Enough

Over the past few months, my approach to sleep has drastically changed. And through this process, I’ve learned something valuable. When I was going through high school and college, sleep was a non-negotiable for me. Since academic and athletic performance were my top priorities, I knew I had to treat my body right. While other …

Embracing the Journey

At the deepest level, I hate losing. But recently, I had a surprising revelation. Over the past few months, I’ve been in the midst of some serious ping pong (yes, ping pong) tournaments at my work. Picture what you would expect from an office ping pong tournament. Now triple the intensity – that’s what I’ve …

The Dangers of “Perfection”

Perfection. It’s an admirable goal. But we often miss the risk that is inherent in this pursuit. We miss the dangers of the facade of perfection. Back in high school, I was fortunate to have some public successes. And because of that, I would occasionally be referred to as “Mr. Perfect”, or something similar. I knew …

So Good They Can’t Ignore You

When legendary comedian Steve Martin was asked what advice he would give to aspiring comedians, his response was simple. “Be so good they can’t ignore you.” Notice what he didn’t include. There’s nothing about; Waiting for the world to present you with an opportunity. Finding coaches/teachers/bosses who will treat you special. Relying on anything external …

The First Lesson in Humility

Where does humility come from? First, it might be worth defining humility. Admittedly, there are many working definitions out there, but for simplicity we’ll use: “A modest view of one’s importance.”  Through the years, I’ve been consistently told that I came across as being extremely humble. As I was doing well academically and helping to …

The Key to Happiness

One of the most impactful things I’ve done over the last few years has been taking on a gratitude practice. It started with a seemingly simple, insignificant process. Using the Five Minute Journal, I would write down three things that I was grateful for each morning. Quick and easy. Some days, coming up with three things …

Becoming Comfortable with Being Uncomfortable

The moments that define our lives are often those times when we’re most uncomfortable – stressful situations at home, key plays on the sports field, placement tests, public speaking, etc. Naturally, these situations are difficult. There’s a lot at stake, and our body responds to that. But those of us who can put aside this …

There Are No Guarantees

In Super Bowl XLIX, the Seattle Seahawks were driving late in the game, with an opportunity to all but guarantee victory with a touchdown. But on second down and goal with 26 seconds left, Russell Wilson threw a pass that was intercepted by Malcolm Butler, sealing the victory for the New England Patriots. In a …

Why Goals Aren’t Enough

Goal setting is a powerful tool for achievement, but it isn’t the ultimate solution. Some situations are perfectly suited for goal setting. Typically, these are times when there is a clearly defined vision of success, and when the path towards achieving that vision is relatively straightforward. For example, academic goals for high school students make …